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Author: Chris Widener Article source: http://www.chriswidener.com/. Used with author's permission.
In the pursuit of the life we dream of, this journey we are on for
successful living, the focus is usually on figuring out what it is exactly
that we want and then setting ourselves on course for going and getting it.
This is very important: Know what you want to get for your life and then
pursue it.
But there is another aspect of achieving the life you dream of that seems on
the surface to actually be counter-productive to getting the life you want,
yet is imperative to the successful life. It is giving.
Giving - of yourself, your time, your money, your energy - is something that
takes us from simply being successful people in the traditional sense of the
term, to being people who lead successful lives.
Giving is what makes us fully human. It is the essence of what we are,
people who are here on earth together, not simply people who hope to clamor
to the top of the pile in the survival of the fittest. Yes, pursue your life
and your success with wild abandon; be responsible for yourself and take
ownership of your life, realizing that you cannot be responsible for others,
but also allow yourself to become a giving person.
Giving is also what allows us to accomplish things far beyond ourselves; and
that is part of what living the life of our dreams is all about, right?
Accomplishing great things through ourselves - and others!
How do we do that? Here are some ideas:
Make your giving purposeful. Give to people and organizations that fulfill
purposes that you believe in. This way, they feel good, you feel good, and
the work you believe in gets done. Giving purposefully will give you the
ability to know that your giving is doing something great.
Make your giving proactive. Take control of your giving. When we control our
giving it becomes proactive rather than reactive. We know that we are doing
what we want to do rather than what others may manipulate us to do. We can
avoid a lot of the wondering about validity that comes when we give out of
reaction. Giving proactively will give you a lot of peace of mind.
Make your giving methodical. Every month my wife and I write out our charity
checks before any other checks. We do that on purpose to keep our hearts in
the right place. Every month, month in and month out, year after year, we go
about our giving. Our goal is to give away $1,000,000 by the end of our
lives (and we may have to even readjust that goal as time goes by since we
set it when we were only 24 years old and we are well on our way to that
goal.) This isn't done by giving big chunks from time to time. It is
accomplished by checks each and every month, methodically. Giving
methodically allows you to build up larger gifts over time.
Make your giving generous. Don't be a tightwad! Loosen up the purse strings
a bit. Think of your giving in regard to how you can be generous, not how
you can cover your charitable bases. I have found that it isn't the extra
money given to charity that breaks people. It is usually mismanagement. And
at the end of your life you will most likely not know the difference
financially, though you will in your heart. Making your giving generous
allows you to give even greater amounts over time.
Make your giving increasing. Don't just give the same amount from year to
year - increase your giving. I think there are two good times to readjust
your giving: The first of the year and any time your income goes up. Bump
your giving up then, if you can. This will keep you on pace with your giving
goals and you will notice the increase less from your bottom line. Make your
giving increasing and your giving will keep pace with your income.
Make your giving from the heart. Don't just let your giving be a mind issue.
Let it be a heart issue. This is what gives us our humanity. What causes
make your eyes tear up? What causes really mean something to your heart when
you are honest with yourself? Start giving to these causes! Let your
checkbook be a reflection of your heart! Make your giving from the heart and
you will allow your heart to grow.
(Sometimes) Make your giving spontaneous. Sometimes... Allow yourself to be
spontaneous with your giving. Do allow yourself to react sometimes. Will you
get taken advantage of? Yes, sometimes. But you will also be doing something
within yourself that will keep you from becoming cynical. Sometimes, as life
has been good to you and you find yourself blessed, let yourself be the
blessing to someone else. Make your giving spontaneous (sometimes) and you
will battle the disease of cynicism about charity that can creep in.
These are just a few ideas that you can implement right now to begin the art
of giving in your life. The key is to decide that you will become a giver,
and not merely a taker. You will choose to leave something behind in this
world and not merely try to get something out of it.
And as we all commit to that, our world will be a better place and we can
all live the lives that we dream of. About The Author:
Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of
Made for Success, a company helping individuals and organizations turn
their potential into performance, succeed in every area of their lives and
achieve their dreams.
To see Chris "live" at the upcoming Jim Rohn Weekend Event as he speaks on
the subject of Secrets of Influence go to
http://Chris-Widener.InspiresYOU.com/ or call 800-929-0434.
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