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Author: Ana Tampanna Article source: http://www.alligatorqueen.com/. Used with author's permission.
1. Identify a woman who is "like minded," who has the attitude and exudes the philosophy that you like and feel drawn to
someone who is on the same wavelength spiritually.
2. Ask her if she will be your Spiritual Success partner, in other words, you will support each other's SPIRIT.
3. Determine who will make the phone call and at what time. Calls should be made either five times a week or daily.
4. During the call: LISTEN to her feelings of the moment, TELL her what you heard and ASK what she needs inside for her challenges of the day (this is like a prayer need.)
For example: She might say, "I am feeling overwhelmed. I need reassurance that I'll get everything done."
5. Offer a prayer OR affirmation. For example, if she's feeling overwhelmed, you might say, "I see you calm and centered, guided to do what you know is most important."
6. Take YOUR turn. Share your feeling of the moment and challenging need for the day. Be brief. You don't need to offer long stories and details.
7. Remember that this conversation is confidential and sacred. Keep it as a commitment and stay on a high plane when you are the listener. Avoid the temptation to solve her problems, to judge others she might be in conflict with, or to get involved in her story. Your job is to remain objective, give caring feedback, and help her focus on her inner need to solve her own problem. Honor her boundaries and set yours as well: this is not true confessions. You also have private lives.
8. At some point, be sure to share goals, dreams, and the big picture. Your job is to constantly see your partner as capable of achieving her goal, and reaching her
highest potential. Be her CONSTANT reminder that she can do it, and
acknowledge her achievements, however small, along the way.
9. Be willing to call even when you feel down. Be careful not to use this relationship for chronic complaining, although from time to time you can ask permission for a one minute "dump" session and list your disappointments and gripes with the understanding that she is only listening and not "handling your stuff." She can suggest resources.
10. Keep your partner in your prayers daily.
11. Be brief; ask permission for longer conversations when necessary and establish a ground rule that you will each be up front with time demands. Always acknowledge each other for being there and release any other expectations. E-mail encouragement.
12. Celebrate often. Praise her achievements. Relish the fact that you are part of her success energy and she is part of yours. Remember your "Oscar" speech.
13. Extra: At some point you might want to schedule a "strategic planning day." During this time together, you can:
Share goals, action plans
Suggest resources for each other
Write your personal mission statements
Brainstorm marketing ideas
Swap time management secrets
Trade useful information or processes for life balance
Loan each other books and tapes
14. Always promote your partner in a positive light. Remember that your ability to support her greatness is reflective of your own. © Ana Tampanna
Ana Tampanna, "The Alligator Queen," is author or the "The Womanly Art of Alligator Wrestling." To learn more about her books in addition to her speaking and coaching services, visit her site at http://www.alligatorqueen.com.
NOTE You're welcome to "reprint" this article online as long as it remains complete and unaltered (including the "about the author" info at the end). Ana would appreciate a copy of your reprint. ana@alligatorqueen.com.
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