You may remember being told as a child, "Keep quiet!"
"Children should be seen, not heard," and "You talk
too much." You were a "good" kid if you kept quiet.
However, being quiet when you are little causes big
problems later in life.
As an adult, you may have been punished for
communicating. For example, if you admit you committed
a crime and are sorry about it, no one cares. You
still go to jail. If you honestly tell your spouse you
are thinking about an affair, your marriage suffers if
your spouse is not very understanding. If you tell
someone you feel a little crazy, who knows what might
happen. So you learn to keep your mouth shut.
However, businesses fail when managers do not talk to
employees or employees do not talk to customers.
Everyone mistakenly believes telepathy is working. "I
thought you knew I was unhappy with your performance."
"You should have known I was overworked."
Marriages are ruined by poor communication. Rather
than openly discuss sex, money, body problems or
whatever, couples hint about their concerns or simply
say nothing. But without support and understanding
from your primary teammate, you do not go as far. In
fact, a bad marriage can ruin everything in your life.
Both parties in a successful marriage are able to give
and receive communication from their spouse on any
subject.
Life is miserable if you have no one to openly
communicate with. Friendships are based on
communication. The lack of friends or a spouse to
communicate with often leads to mental problems.
So the first communication skill you need is to get
out there and talk.
Unfortunately, on some topics, you've learned to watch
what you say, to keep it under your hat, to zip it up.
"So that is the basic lesson that anybody learns in
this universe. They learn to keep their mouth shut,
and it's the wrong lesson. When in doubt, talk. When
in doubt, communicate." — L. Ron Hubbard
Whenever you have doubts about something, COMMUNICATE!
Talk, talk, talk until the problem resolves. When you
feel stress, disagreement or resistance between you
and someone near you, the wrong thing to do is ignore
the problem. Instead, start communicating.
When you know you should say something, say it! For
example, an employee knows another employee is
embezzling money and so says something to the employee
and/or boss. A doctor knows he must talk to a about
the patient's rude behavior to the office staff. An
employer knows she must discuss poor performance
issues with some employees.
Take the bull by the horns. Move ahead in life. Spit
it out.
If you're worried about the consequences of saying
something, you can ask first. Examples:
"Lisa, I want to say something about your driving to
help keep you out of accidents, but I don't want to
upset you. Can I tell you what I think or should I
keep my mouth shut?"
"Boss, should I tell you if I think you are giving me
bad advice?"
"John, our marriage means so much to me I don't want
to say anything that would jeopardize it. But I have
done something wrong and I'm sorry I did it. I think
it would be good for our relationship if I told you.
Don't you think it's best if we are 100% honest with
each other?"
"Can you listen to something unfortunate I have to say
and remain calm? Are you ready?"
In the long run, you are always better off by
communicating. Take responsibility and talk. Staying
silent solves nothing.
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